Closer Than A Brother


The words of our mouths are an interesting thing.  They can build up or tear down another person in a matter of seconds.  Seconds!  I'm sure we've all had times where we wish we could take something back that we have said.  I wrote in my last post that we should all not hesitate to exhort one another to press on in God's service.  However, we do need to be careful to speak the truth love and not judgment. 

Today, though, I'm reflecting on our ordinary conversation.  The times we spend with others whether we are in a group or one-on-one.  Have you stopped to think about the tone of your words or the attitude behind them lately?  The bible says to

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.  (Ephesians 4:29)

Now think about where you were yesterday.  Can you picture some conversations?  Were your words edifying or were they negative words?  Are you naturally an optimist or a pessimist?  Do the words you say leave people uplifted from being around you or do they leave deflated?  This is a hard self-examination, but I think a necessary one.  I was in a situation the other day where I felt like I was just brought down by one of the people I was around.  I asked myself, "Do I say things like that?" 

So how do we change if we find ourselves one of the lesser edifying people around?  God can change us if we spend time with Him daily in His word and in prayer asking for help.

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. (Colossians 3:16)

No, I'm not saying that we just need to be the star of a musical or opera and go around singing our conversation all of the time so that it will be more pleasant to the ears.  :)  Remember, some of us can't sing and plus, it would look a little weird!  But by spending daily time in the word of God, our bibles, and thinking about what we have learned throughout our day, we can have a song in our hearts and our words will no doubt come out sweeter.  My challenge for you today - and I'm going to do it too - is to really pay attention to not only the words of your mouth but the thoughts of your mind.  Try to find out what you really "sound" like to others. 

Dear Heavenly Father,

I pray right now that You will guide my mind today and help me to really examine the words I speak and the thoughts that I think.  Show me where I need to improve and show me also where I've hit the mark how You would like.  Thank You for giving me through Your Holy Spirit the power to change so that I'm not alone in my quest to be the person You would have me to be.  In Jesus name, Amen.